Tolga left last night. Tomris cried quite dramatically. I don’t mean to ignore or dismiss her … I’m sure she was sad, but it was quite the show. Tolga made her laugh too. Teoman was exhausted and slept quickly and he slept well, but he cried too in the morning when he realized Baba was gone.
For some reason, these days are hard for them both - being here in Kusdasi without Tolga. I know the feeling. Even Tuana called for Baba! when she woke up. I moved them on by looking forward to my birthday - when we'd go to the waterpark, get presents, and so forth. I took the kids to a play area at the mall. It’s a mini village - with a hospital, firehouse, kitchen, hair salon, barn, climbing area, and so forth. They had been wanting to take their Babanne there. I dropped them off and had 60 minutes to run my errands: pharmacy, home goods store, groceries, and french fries for the kids to get them home.
A cousin showed up where we were - she had tried to catch us the night before and was apparently surprised that we were all locked up for the night at 11:30pm. She had come today as well - and we were at the mall playing.
Tolga told me relatives that he hadn’t spoken to in years were calling him. Sickness and death is always passed along quickly - and it is expected among family to call one another and with geçmis olsun. Not that this is always done - but Turks seem to love drama (my Scandinavian disdainful influence here), and I love them for this. I think we get so afraid of “bothering” someone or considering it gossiping, that we forget that most basic step of saying - hey, I heard, I’m sorry, I’m praying for you - we are with you, on your side - it will pass, things we be better.
I do appreciate it. I do need it. And this time - we’ve got most of this support from relative strangers, and it is beautiful.
But then others made comments, "I had that surgery, no problem."
You didn't have intussusception - you had appendicitis.
You weren't five.
Stop it because its not making it easier nor him better.
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