interview wars

Apparently the interview is a big deal.
They might actually reject your little pre-schooler if they cry and won't come in.
Because I am on staff, I don't have the pressure, but because of the number of applicants and number of spaces, they must reject about 50% of the applicants.
Dressing herself, feeding himself, holding scissors, putting on her jacket and shoes, balancing, holding a pencil or scissors.  They have to differentiate somehow.  They are looking especially for bilingual and international students - but left with mostly a Turkish population it comes down to the little things.  The little things that also happen to differentiate a Turkish child from an international.  Many Turkish kids can't feed or dress themselves because of the culture here of mothers and Babanne's hovering over them figuratively and literally spoon feeding them.  Most kids learn the skills because its a child's natural instinct (I think) to learn things on her own - all by myself.  And more importantly, I don't see this culturally habit as turning out terrible citizens or incapable adults.  They all grow up and learn eventually.
Unfortunately though, lack of these skills may mean he/she is not the right fit for our school.  More to the point - it will make parents feel that their child just isn't good enough.
How terribly early to do this to parents and children.