Emily works with me. She's mormon, from Utah, and has a Turkish husband like me. She is a few years younger than me, but has two girls and is pregnant with the third. She is three weeks behind me in her pregnancy.
We went to a baby store together after work today. Tolga and I still need to buy everything, and Emily and I went to a few big stores to have a look. We brought her 8 year old daughter and picked up her 3 year old from preschool. Elif, the 3-year-old, cries every morning when Emily brings her to preschool. When we picked her up, she was tired and when we went to the store - the older one was complaining about being hungry and the younger one threw a tantrum when she couldn't buy a toy.
Emily was tired from a long day teaching, and a duty in addition (where the teacher must monitor the hallways in-between class periods and during lunch). She was patient with her daughter, and didn't give in to her, but seemed to believe her tantrum would eventually work, because she didn't let up.
I don't know what I will actually do as a parent, but I think I would have given a spanking in the very beginning. Elif didn't no what she was saying or doing, but she had lost her control and it was only getting worse as Emily tolerated her tantrum. We stopped for food and the girls packed down some pizza, and each had candy of their choosing, then complained for water.
Everybody was tired and overwrought. I'm not sure being a working mom is such a good idea... I suppose some people can do it, and for some it depends on the personality and needs of their kids ... I'm sure when the time comes, it will be clear what our family needs.
I'm looking forward to it.
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